This is as good a place as any to point out the importance of working out where you should post before you do it: this should have gone in the Website Issues forum.

And, incidentally, I've been on forums that use a messaging system before. The didn't get used much: most people just use e-mail and it's pretty easy to get hold of each others' addresses (it's in our profiles - click on a person's nameth view 'em).